FindLaw KnowledgeBasePublished: 2012-05-02
Divorce is a stressful time in people’s lives. Experts have ranked it among losing a job, the death of a loved one and surviving a severe accident as one of the most stressful events a person can experience. Some people seem to handle the divorce experience better than others, and that is usually attributable to the fact they employed some survival tactics to help them get through it.
Divorce is an emotionally-charged event, but people will come through the process in a much better position if they can learn to table their emotions and think as rationally as possible. Big decisions regarding finances and property division, as well as other issues such as child custody, requires calm and logical thinking. People need to think what is best for them in the long term and not act out in the moment, motivated by hurt, anger or a desire for revenge.
Additionally, if the divorce goes to a hearing, outbreaks of emotion in front of the judge will make the judge less likely to give a person what he or she is seeking. The judge may see that person as emotionally unstable, a less fit parent and could end up believing allegations of domestic abuse based on courtroom behavior.
People should seek out both personal and professional support during divorce. They need friends or family in whom they can confide their feelings about the process and to help them maintain their mental health. Reaching out to others can help a person going through a divorce focus on the future instead of wallowing in negative feelings associated with the difficulties of the present situation.
Those going through divorce should also hire qualified professionals such as lawyers and financial planners who can help ensure that they receive a fair share of the marital assets and have solid financial plans for life after divorce.
Organization Is Key
Going through a divorce requires a lot of meetings and a lot of paperwork. People need to have systems in place to keep track of both.
Those who are organized are also in a better position to make decisions about the future and finances. Those who keep their financial information up-to-date and easily accessible in a clear filing system can more easily assess property division proposals in light of what the couple has and what the individual knows his or her needs to be as a single person.
Divorce can seem like an overwhelming experience, but following some simple steps can make it easier to endure and ensure that a person comes through it successfully.